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Sunday, April 19, 2015

Gastroparesis vs. Eating Disorders

I have talked to a lot of GPers (people with Gastroparesis) and they have told me at one time or another, that they were accused of having an eating disorder and was refused treatment. In high school, when I was sick and before I knew what I had, I was accused of pregnancy and then an eating disorder. Some people did get gastroparesis through eating disorders as well. However, I do not think they should be punished nor should we all be punished and refused treatment because of this terrible invisible chronic illness. I am going to share some stories with you that brave women have sent me. Because, they deserve to be heard and the world needs to hear them. They won't be invisible anymore.

Meghan writes,

"Hi my name's Meghan. I'm a member of the Gastroparesis Support Group ( on Facebook. I'm interested in helping with a blog article on GP caused by an eating disorder. I had severe anorexia and bulimia for 15 years. I just got a pacemaker for the GP because the damage done is bad. I was hospitalized 10 times for my ED. My lowest weight has 76 lbs. I developed the GP about 6 years into it and had a bad experience with a GI doc who didn't believe me. My ED morphed. I was purging not because I was scared of gaining weight (I wanted to gain weight!) But the food sitting undigested in my stomach made me feel so sick. So I either wouldn't eat at all to avoid the nausea or when I got starving I would binge and purge. I'm 95lbs now. I'm not mentally in an eating disorder anymore. But the GP symptoms make me scared to eat a lot of the time. I also need partial dentures from the vomiting. I am 32.

I saw your post on the gastroparesis support group on Facebook on the difference between eating disorders and gp. I think I told you a little bit of my story, about how my severe eating disorder caused my gp. The biggest difference for me is that one (the ED) is a battle with the mind and that the other (the GP) is a battle with the body. With an eating disorder I had urges, mental urges, to restrict my food or binge and purge for emotional reasons. With GP the battle is more physical - there is nausea and pain, confusion with being both hungry and full at the same time. But there ARE still emotions connected to GP, like anger and resentment at your body. ('Damnit i love pizza and it's going to cause me to throw up but I'm going to eat it anyway it's not fair I hate this!') The problem I have is drawing the line with that. I can make myself vomit very easily just by clenching my stomach from my years of binging and purging. If i have stomach pain from the GP and know if I make myself vomit I will feel better, do I do it? The emotions attached to our food and body is hard to deal with."

According to National Eating Disorders (

"Eating disorders -- such as anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating disorder – include extreme emotions, attitudes, and behaviors surrounding weight and food issues. Eating disorders are serious emotional and physical problems that can have life-threatening consequences for females and males."

According to the Mayo Clinic (

"Gastroparesis is a condition in which the spontaneous movement of the muscles (motility) in your stomach does not function normally."

This is a story from Madison, who writes,

"I was bullied all throughout middle school, because I became friends with a girl who did drugs. She would constantly criticize what I ate, and would throw away my food, and we would go to her house so we could look at pro-ana [sic: anorexia] sites. After she got kicked out of school for using drugs, I didn't really have many friends. I was so in my head all the time and just so focused on my eating disorder. It just continued to get worse and worse until my school forced my parents to take me out of school to get a physical because I became a liability to them. Going to high school was even worse.

I would have panic attacks every day and miss probably half the week. I WAS so tired all the time that I couldn't do my homework, couldn't Do my classwork, nothing. I was too malnourished. In 10th grade halfway through I dropped out and did independent study, which I excelled in.

I abused amphetamines, which made me lose weight faster, and would spend all day at the library so I didn't have to eat. Junior year I decided to go back to school but within the first week the panic attacks started again. I had to go back to independent study.

I got into some legal trouble and my therapist told me that to avoid legal consequences, and dying, I should go to treatment. She was on the phone with my parents forever on a Wednesday and by that friday I was in an Inpatient treatment center. They discharged me at 5 weeks, and going to outpatient was too much for me. I wasn't ready to leave.

I started purging to get back into residential. They let me back in for another two weeks which really did a lot for me to break my behaviours. I successfully completed 6 months of treatment. But, I had awful nausea, dizziness, abdominal pain, and many other GI symptoms.

I turned 18, graduated from high school, and went to college to study psychology. The GI symptoms got worse and worse. I wasn't getting any emotional support. I was still depressed and still incredibly anxious and still wanting to die. Every day. I got a puppy who made me so so happy, and the only reason why I'm still here today. February 2014 I was hospitalized and bunches of tests were ran. It was gastroparesis, cause by my eating disorder. I also have osteopenia from malnutrition. I have fibromyalgia. Every day is a struggle."

I want to applaud these women for coming forward with their stories. We are all accused at one time or another of having an eating disorder so we are overlooked and undertreated. Eating disorders can be just as deadly as gastroparesis, but they are both invisible, chronic illnesses so people assume we make them up for attention. I can tell you that some of my family thinks that my illness is in my head. They think I have bad anxiety and that I have made up this illness for attention, despite tests saying otherwise. I know how it feels to be looked down on and not taken seriously by doctors, family, friends, anyone. That's why I wanted to share these women's struggles and their stories. I'd like to share more.

If you would like to share your story as well, I'd be glad to add it to this article. Please send your story to me at emilysstomach[at] Please let me know if I have permission to use your name or if you want me to change it. I have used real names in this article because I was allowed to. If you have any questions for the ladies above, please ask them on my wall on my Facebook page: and I'll see that they get your messages.

They are very brave to come forward for their stories for this article. It doesn't matter how they got GP, what does matter is that they HAVE GP and we are all in this together! No awareness, no research, no cure.

EDIT: If you are looking for help or for others like you, I've created a group to help everyone with their feelings: I just wanted some place where we wouldn't judge each other and where we could talk about the things that are bothering us that no one else really understands.

Thursday, March 19, 2015

How to Protect Yourself from Gastroparesis Scams

How to Protect Yourself from Gastroparesis Scams

I've been noticing more and more scams that keep popping up in groups I'm in, saying things like if you change your diet and take this pill, your gastroparesis will be cured. A lot of people fall for these scams. I want to prevent that. First off, gastroparesis cannot be cured. It's vagus nerve damage. So, I'm going to spend some time talking about possible things that can slow your motility down even more, like medication, and I'm going to talk about what causes gastroparesis. I would also, at the end, like to offer you ways to protect yourself in case of a scam, because they're all over the place. Just type in "gastroparesis cure" and you'll get youtube videos, websites, all kinds of things. I just don't want any of my friends of my gp family to be taken advantage of because you all mean a lot to me. Without you, I'm not sure I'd have the strength to leave the bed most days. Now, let's talk about this vagus nerve.

That Little Thing Called the Vagus Nerve

Gastroparesis can be caused by a lot of things - abdominal surgery, stomach viruses, diabetes. If you do have nerve damage, the nerve damage will not repair itself. Think of this scenario: you injured your knee playing basketball. You managed to move your kneecap out of joint but kept playing anyway. Then, when you got to the hospital, the doctors fixed your knee but you still have pain. The doctors tell you that you now have nerve damage. If the nerve damage in your knee will never heal, how can the vagus nerve in your stomach ever heal? The nerves that were once functioning aren't functioning anymore.

A pill, diet change, exercise change - sure they can all help manage your gastroparesis but it will never be cured. I'm considering doing a stomach bypass to try and make it so that I can eat before I vomit, tear my esophagus, and bleed to death. So, my doctor is pushing this surgery hard and I'm scared. It's OK to be scared. Gastroparesis may never heal, but you have friends and loved ones who support you. If not, I have a whole list of resources in this blog saying that you do. You can always find me on my Facebook Page: I'd be happy with a "like" too, if you can spare me one. =)

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Here are some facts about vagus nerves:

Slower Motility and Gastroparesis Causes

People can't be cured from gastroparesis, except in certain circumstances. There are certain medications that can cause decreased motility function like narcotics, that when you come off of them, your stomach will work again. There are other medications that will do that as well. According to The American College of Gastroenterology ( , these are the medications that will slow down motility:

Tricyclic antidepressants
Calcium channel blockers
Dopamine agonists

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The website also goes on to state:

"There are many causes of gastroparesis. Diabetes is one of the most common causes for gastroparesis. Other causes include infections, endocrine disorders like hypothyroidism, connective tissue disorders like scleroderma, autoimmune conditions, neuromuscular diseases, idiopathic (unknown) causes, psychological conditions, eating disorders, certain cancers, radiation treatment applied over the chest or abdomen, some chemotherapy agents, and surgery of the upper intestinal tract. Any surgery on the esophagus, stomach or duodenum may result in injury to the vagus nerve which is responsible for many sensory and motor (muscle) responses of the intestine. In health, the vagus nerve sends neurotransmitter impulses to the smooth muscle of the stomach that result in contraction and forward propulsion of gastric contents. If the vagus nerve is injured by trauma or during surgery gastric emptying may be reduced. Symptoms of postoperative gastroparesis may develop immediately, or months to years after a surgery is performed.

It is important to realize that medications prescribed for a variety of conditions may have side effects that cause gastric emptying to slow down. The most common drugs that delay stomach emptying are narcotics and certain antidepressants. Table 1 lists more medications that may delay stomach emptying. If possible, patients having dyspeptic symptoms, vomiting or early fullness should discontinue the offending medications before undergoing any motility tests. Fortunately, gastric emptying resumes and symptoms improve when medications causing ‘pseudo-gastroparesis’ are stopped. It is important to have the names of all your medications recorded and with you when you see a physician for evaluation of gastrointestinal symptoms.
People with eating disorders such as anorexia nervosa or bulimia may also develop delayed gastric emptying. Gastric emptying may resume and symptoms improve when food intake and eating schedules normalize."

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Here Are Ways to Protect Yourself Against Scammers

I just want you to be able to protect yourself from these scams. We're all lonely, miserable, and this illness is hard to live with. But, we can still look out for each other and not fall prey to these scams. So, if you see one in your group or on a page, please report that person to an admin and/or facebook.

Here are some ways to protect yourself against scams from Scam Watch (

"How to protect yourself. Almost everyone will be approached by a scammer at some stage. Some scams are very easy to spot while other scams may appear to be genuine offers or bargains. Scams can even take place without you doing anything at all.

Most scams need you to do something before they can work. You may send money to someone based on a promise that turns out to be false. You may give your personal details to people who turn out to be scammers. Some scams rely on you agreeing to deals without getting advice first or buying a product without checking it out properly.

The simple tips below will help you protect yourself and your family from scams. Scams can cost people a lot of money and cause a great deal of distress. By following these simple tips, you can protect yourself against scams.

Golden rules

If it looks too good to be true—it probably is.
ALWAYS get independent advice if an offer involves significant money, time or commitment.
Remember there are no get-rich-quick schemes: the only people who make money are the scammers.
Do not agree to offers or deals straight away: tell the person that you are not interested or that you want to get some independent advice before making a decision.
You can contact your local office of fair trading, ASIC or the ACCC for assistance.
NEVER send money or give credit card or online account details to anyone you do not know and trust.
Check your bank account and credit card statements when you get them. If you see a transaction you cannot explain, report it to your credit union or bank.
Keep your credit and ATM cards safe. Do not share your personal identity number with anyone. Do not keep any written copy of your PIN with the card.

Digging a little deeper

Do not let anyone pressure you into making decisions about money or investments: always get independent financial advice.
Read all the terms and conditions of any offer very carefully: claims of free or very cheap offers often have hidden costs.
Make sure you know how to stop any subscription service you want to sign up to.
Be very careful about offers for medicines, supplements or other treatments: always seek the advice of your health care professional.
Remember there are no magic pills or safe options for rapid weight loss.
Beware of products or schemes that claim to guarantee income or winnings.
If someone offers you an investment or other financial service, ask for their Australian Financial Services Licence number: check this with ASIC.
Be wary of investments promising a high return with little or no risk.
Beware of job offers that require you to pay an upfront fee.

Protect your identity

Only give out your personal details and information where it is absolutely necessary and where you have initiated the contact and trust the other party.
Destroy personal information, don’t just throw it out. You should cut up, burn or shred old bills, statements or cards so scammers can not get your personal details from them later.
Treat your personal details as you would treat money: don’t leave them lying around for others to take.
Order a free copy of your credit report every year to make sure no one is using your name to borrow money or run up debts.

Sending or transferring money

Never send money to anyone you are not totally sure about.
Do not send any money or pay any fee to claim a prize or lottery winnings.
Money laundering is a criminal offence: do not agree to transfer money for someone else.
Make sure that cheques have been cleared by your bank before transferring or wiring any refunds or overpayments back to the sender.
Do not pass on chain letters or take part in pyramid schemes: you will lose your money and could lose your friends.

Dealing with a face-to-face approach

If someone comes to your door, ask to see their identification. You do not have to let them in and they MUST leave if you ask them to.
Contact your local fair trading agency if you are unsure about an offer or trader.
Remember that family members and friends may try to involve you in a scam without realising that it is a scam: you should seek independent advice (from a lawyer or financial adviser).

Telephone traps

If you receive a phone call out of the blue, always ask for the name of the person you are speaking to and who they represent.
Do not give your personal, credit card or online account details over the phone unless you made the call and the phone number came from a trusted source.
It is best not to respond to text messages or missed calls that come from numbers you don’t recognise.
Be careful of phone numbers beginning with 190. These are charged at a premium rate and can be very expensive.
Look out for SMS and MMS numbers that start with 19. These are charged at a premium rate (sometimes even for receiving a message) and can be very expensive.

Dealing with suspicious or unsolicited offers sent by email or SMS

Do not open suspicious or unsolicited emails (spam): delete them.
Do not click on any links in a spam email or open any files attached to them.
Never call a telephone number that you see in a spam email or SMS.
NEVER reply to a spam email or SMS (even to unsubscribe).

Internet tips

Talk to your internet service provider about spam filtering or, alternatively, purchase spam-filtering software.
If you want to access an internet account website, use a bookmarked link or type the address in yourself: NEVER follow a link in an email.
Install software that protects your computer from viruses and unwanted programs and make sure it is kept up-to-date.
Beware of free websites and downloads (such as music, adult sites, games and movies). They may install harmful programs without you knowing.
Check the website address carefully. Scammers often set up fake websites with very similar addresses.
Never enter your personal, credit card or online account information on a website that you are not certain is genuine.
Never send your personal, credit card or online account details by email.
Try to avoid using public computers (at libraries or internet cafes) to do your internet banking.
Do not use software on your computer that auto-completes online forms. This can give internet scammers easy access to your personal and credit card details.
Choose passwords that would be difficult for anyone else to guess.

Protecting your business

Never give out or clarify any information about your business unless you know what the information will be used for.
Never agree to any business proposal on the phone: always ask for an offer in writing.
Try to avoid having a large number of people authorised to make orders or pay invoices.
Always check that goods or services were both ordered and delivered before paying an invoice.
Make sure the business billing you is the one you normally deal with.
If you are unsure about any part of a business offer, ask for more information or seek independent advice.

Keeping children safe online: Cybersmart

The Cybersmart program is a national cybersafety education program managed by the Australian Communications and Media Authority (ACMA). It provides a comprehensive range of information, resources and presentations designed to meet the needs of children, parents, teachers and library staff.

The ACMA Cybersmart website is home to all its cybersafety resources, research and activities. For more information, visit Cybersmart or contact the Cybersafety Contact Centre on 1800 880 176."

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Frequently Asked Questions Regarding Gastroparesis

Frequently Asked Questions about Gastroparesis

1. What is Gastroparesis?

The Mayo Clinic defines Gastroparesis as, “Gastroparesis is a condition in which the muscles in your stomach don't function normally. Ordinarily, strong muscular contractions propel food through your digestive tract. But in gastroparesis, the muscles in the wall of your stomach work poorly or not at all. This prevents your stomach from emptying properly. Gastroparesis can interfere with digestion, cause nausea and vomiting, and cause problems with blood sugar levels and nutrition.”

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2. How do you get Gastroparesis?

The Mayo Clinic Writes, “It's not always clear what leads to Gastroparesis. But in many cases, Gastroparesis is believed to be caused by damage to a nerve that controls the stomach muscles (vagus nerve). Other possible causes are abdominal surgery, Diabetes, Idiopathic (no known cause), a virus, and being born with a stomach that function properly. It can also be cause by narcotics because they can slow down motility.” On a personal note, mine was due to a stomach virus. I was in the hospital for eight days.

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3. What are the signs and symptoms of Gastroparesis?

The Mayo Clinic states that,
“Signs and Symptoms of Gastroparesis:
Early Satiety (feeling full after just a few bites)
weight loss
weight gain
Abdominal bloating
Abdominal pain
Erratic blood glucose levels (mainly in diabetes)
Lack of appetite
Gastric reflux
Spasms of the stomach wall
Chronic nausea
Vomiting (often of undigested food)
Inability to tolerate dietary fats.”

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4. How do you treat Gastroparesis?

The Mayo Clinic writes, “Treating gastroparesis begins with identifying and treating the underlying condition. For instance, if diabetes is causing your gastroparesis, your doctor can work with you to help you control your diabetes.”

I have written a blog entry on how to cope with emotional and physical pain of Gastroparesis. Here is an excerpt,

“This is a question that I've been asked a lot. I have been doubled over in pain, with no relief in sight. So, how do I cope and what do I do to make the pain easier to handle?”

You can find the ways to treat Gastroparesis here, without narcotics. Link here:

This link will also help you if other treatments don’t seem to work:

This link will help you with natural remedies for pain around the house:

5. Can you die from Gastroparesis?

Yes. If it gets severe enough people can get very malnourished and without proper treatment options and proper nutrition people can die from complications from Gastroparesis. Gastroparesis alone cannot kill you but it can do horrible things to your body if you are starving.


6. Does Gastroparesis go away?

The only way Gastroparesis will go away is when it’s been caused by narcotics or medication. Nerve damage and muscle damage is typically permanent.

See webMd on nerve damage:

7. Is there a cure for Gastroparesis?

The Mayo Clinic says, “There is no cure for gastroparesis. Making changes to your diet may help you cope with gastroparesis signs and symptoms, but that's not always enough. Gastroparesis medications may offer some relief, but some can cause serious side effects.” You have to eat low fiber and low fat foods. I have several gastroparesis friendly recipes on Pinterest and also juicing recipes:

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8. What should you need to know after being diagnosed with Gastroparesis?

I know that when I was finally diagnosed in March of 2012, I did two things that really helped me. The first thing I did was start this blog. I started it to keep track of my medical information, visits, testing, and everything else that I wouldn't remember later. My main goal was to help people through my own experiences so that maybe they wouldn't repeat things that I have done in the past like listening to bad advice from doctors. I was put on two medications that actually did the same things AND they slowed down motility! I also know that through my research, there's not really a whole lot on the internet about Gastroparesis or support groups. So, I made this entry to put all of my research in one place for people who may need support groups. My article with online resources has since been used by United Healthcare as an electronic resource for GP/DTP.

More ideas can be found on the link here:

Also, here:

9. What is the Gastroparesis Diet?

The Gastroparesis Diet can be found here:

10. Is there more than one type of Gastroparesis?

Yes, there are! There are two types of Gastroparesis. The first is idiopathic gastroparesis, which means the doctors are not sure what caused it. The next one is diabetic gastroparesis, where diabetic neuropathy or other causes can trigger gastroparesis by damaging the vagas nerve (

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11. Where can I find assistance to help me with finances with Gastroparesis?

I have compiled a list of financial ideas for those currently struggling with money for treatments with the help of the Emily's Stomach's Facebook Page. The blog entry has links in all caps that you can click on that will take you to that page.

The link is:

12. Why are the Gastroparesis colors green and yellow?

As taken from G-PACT’s Facebook Page: From G-PACT's Facebook Page:

"Most people think that green and yellow became the colors for DTP because green is associated with nausea, vomit, bile, and a greenish appearance when sick. Actually, G-PACT places a stronger meaning behind the colors. We gave them a lot of consideration when we selected them to be the official colors for our use to represent gastroparesis. They represent how we want patients to see the future and what we are all trying to accomplish with hope, strength and growth towards better treatment options. We have seen a lot of growth in this field since our founding in August of 2001, so the green is appropriate. Why?

Green indicates growth. We are growing towards a cure and awareness and research is growing. It's a color of hope. When things start turning green outside it indicates the end of the cold, long, dark days of winter. The first sign of green plants and grass indicates we are coming out of a time if darkness and coldness and entering a phase of growth and brightness. It is a color that shows brighter and beautiful days are ahead. There is something really encouraging when you see that first blade of green grass or green leaf peaking [sic] through after months of brown fields, trees, and no growth.

G-PACT is a grassroots organization meaning that we started with a small handful of patients who were coming out of a period where there was very little knowledge and very little hope towards any kind of understanding or a cure. We knew something needed to be done to provide services to patients to get through the tough times now, and provide hope as we also fight for awareness and research and help bring about greater understanding into this condition. Our initial motto was "Striving towards brighter days of treatment, knowledge, and a cure." We have grown into a much larger scale, now making an international impact and have provided hope to so many as they try to cope until we do find the cure.

Yellow was also an important color for us. Our logo is a sun to indicate hope and a brighter future ahead. The sun is a crucial factor that helps the plants grow. It brightens the days and brings with it the nutrients, strength, and oxygen needed to supply the plants with what they need to be able to grow and thrive."

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Handling Holidays with A Chronic Illness

I know this time of year is really rough for all of us. As someone with GP, I cannot eat like normal people do on thanksgiving. I plan to cook for my family and friends, but I was wondering how to deal with the fact that I can't eat like normal people and what to do about it. I did some research and found some articles that might help the chronically ill deal with this issue. Additionally, I found some information for family members who always tell us to eat something or try to force us to eat when we are unable to. I hope this will help everyone a bit.

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WebMD ( gives us a wonderful source for how to deal with the holidays and loved ones as well. The key seems to be planning ahead and communicating your illness and requirements in advance to family and loved ones:

"Rosalind Joffe, MEd, once hosted a Thanksgiving dinner for 22 people at her house. She planned it months in advance. She hired someone to clean. She created a menu and delegated various dishes to guests. A friend came over the day before the holiday to set the table. Relatives were assigned jobs to serve dinner and clean up afterwards. Joffe has the planning sense of Martha Stewart. She also has multiple sclerosis (MS) and ulcerative colitis.

While it was challenging to host Thanksgiving, she says she'd have felt worse if she hadn't. "The key was advance planning," she tells WebMD. "What I've learned is if I ask for help in advance, even with my own family, people don't feel put upon. They feel they're a part of the event."

Joffe is among the many people living with chronic illness -- defined as lasting more than three months, being persistent or recurrent, having a significant health impact, and typically being incurable. So, with Christmas and Hanukkah at hand, times when everyone is supposed to participate and feel cheerful, what are some strategies for coping?

Do Holidays Make Chronic Illnesses Worse?

There's always the temptation to abandon healthful living routines around the holidays. Eating too much, not getting enough exercise, staying up late, worrying about family members getting along -- all these things can make you feel worse. But do they negatively affect your health?

Joffe, who coaches people with chronic illness in the Boston area to thrive in the workplace, says it depends on the disease. "With diabetes, heart conditions, or epilepsy, for example, you must take care of yourself or the disease gets worse. With autoimmune diseases, such as MS, fibromyalgia, or lupus, your symptoms will get worse but not the disease itself."

What about the holiday blues? Do the holidays really bring on episodes of depression? Michael Thase, MD, during a WebMD Live Event, said geography could play a role. "As people living in the northern hemisphere, we seem to be somewhat more prone to development of depression in the fall and winter months. The fact that this period of risk coincides with our holidays is kind of like a bad coincidence. For example, I'm not sure that I've encountered any writing about the holiday blues in New Zealand, Australia, or South Africa."

Speak Up

"Holidays act like a lightning rod where all the physical and social concerns around chronic illness get really highlighted," says Patricia Fennell, MSW, LCSW-R. She explains that the demands and expectations around holidays can "out" people whose conditions were hardly noticeable. During the year, they spend so much of their energy working and handling the daily chores of living that they have little time left for socializing. Come the holidays, they're expected to show up and contribute.

"Many chronic illnesses, such as diabetes, depression, arthritis, fibromyalgia, etc., are 'invisible,'" Fennell says. "People go to work or volunteer or shuttle kids to school. Most of the time, they don't look sick. When illness flares up, their pain is invisible. Or they have bone-numbing fatigue, so bad that they can't take a shower and go to the store in the same day. There's a cultural misperception that says you're not sick unless you look sick. They need to make their illness visible by talking about it."

Fennell, who is president and CEO of Albany Health Management, Inc., in Albany, N.Y., coaches patients on how to negotiate needs. "People don't know how to ask for what they need. They'll stay home from a holiday party because they can't stand that long. We need a new social etiquette for people with chronic illness."

Party Strategies: Ask for What You Need in Advance

Fennell describes a typical holiday scenario. "You're invited to Aunt Jane's. Let her know that you'll do your best to attend her party, but that if your illness flares up, you may have to bow out. Ask her how much lead time she needs. She'll say, 'Anything's fine.' Tell her you'll call her 48 hours in advance to let her know. Uncle Bob will still be annoyed if you don't come, but if you predict that you're unpredictable, people will generally handle it better."

She advises stating your needs in behavioral rather than general terms. "Don't just tell Aunt Jane you'll have to leave early. Tell her you've been feeling fatigued and can stay only two or three hours. Also tell her that standing tires you out, and ask her to have a seat for you. Putting it in behavioral terms makes it easier for Aunt Jane to conceptualize and to accommodate."

Many hosts and restaurants have become accustomed to considering various dietary needs for guests who have heart disease or diabetes or another condition that requires a restricted diet. "They should be offering options for people," Fennell tells WebMD. "If you don't know what's being served, carry a large handbag with snacks and water, or offer to bring a dish that can be shared with others."

When you're the host, whatever you do don't wait till the last minute to ask for help, says Joffe. "You may not get the help you need. And if people do help, they might resent it. Become an expert at planning. Asking in advance allows people to help gracefully."

Managing the Handicap Parking Space

Shopping and gift giving present special challenges, not the least of which is managing the mall. If your illness is invisible, the challenge can start when you get out of your car. Some less-than-jolly shopper who parked way out in left field will let you know that you have no business parking in a handicap space. Try to think of a humorous retort, like that of a cancer patient who plucks off her wig and smiles.

Joffe advises not letting presents and errands get out of control. "Many people with chronic illness aren't in the best financial situation but don't have the energy to shop for bargains. Plan in advance. Take a day off work so you can shop yet avoid the weekend crowds. The key is what matters most to you. Is it going into your bank account? Would a simple note do? Don't go into lock-step motion."

Ways to Relieve Holiday Stress

An article in Arthritis Today offers three tips for managing holiday stress:

Daily rest and relaxation. Don't get stuck in a never-ending to-do list. Do a crossword puzzle or take a walk or a nap. The mental and physical break will rejuvenate you.

Prioritize. Decide how much shopping, cooking, or partying you can do and stick to it. Ask for help.

Volunteer. Take toys to the Marine Toys-for-Tots Foundation, take food to homebound seniors through Meals on Wheels, or provide goods and services for Hurricane Katrina victims. It will boost your spirit and remind you what the holidays are about.

Patch Adams, MD, the real doctor whose life was the basis of the Robin Williams' movie, would agree that volunteering is good for you. He heads the Gesundheit! Institute in Arlington, Va. It's the umbrella organization for his work to raise funds for a variety of projects, including the building of a free hospital in rural West Virginia.

He tells WebMD, "My best advice for someone with chronic illness coping with the holidays is to work out with their families not to give presents, but instead to give money to local families who are poor, and consume half of what they normally consume. Make it about the spirit of giving."

The numbers of people with chronic illness are growing, and that's not necessarily a bad thing, says Fennell. "People are living today with heart disease and cancers that were once considered terminal illnesses, not chronic illnesses."

The growing numbers also mean you're not alone. Next time you go to a holiday party, look around. Some of those healthy looking people may have chronic illnesses, too."

This part is for your loved ones, family and friends and dealing with your loved ones, family, and friends. It's to help them understand what we go through and what they can do for the chronically ill. This source does talk about making food for your chronically ill loved one, but with GP, that can be a challenge. We have a very strict diet but you can modify this article to match up with your loved one's dietary restrictions.

According to Kevin M.D. (

"In the U.S., we’re getting ready to celebrate Thanksgiving. Soon, people around the world will turn their attention to the holiday season. Chronic health problems can take a toll on relationships any time of the year. Most people have to experience unrelenting pain or illness themselves before they understand how debilitating it is, physically and mentally. Loved-ones (by whom I mean family and close friends) may be in some form of denial about what’s happened to you, or they may be scared and worried about the future. Bottom line, suffering from a chronic condition can be an ongoing crisis—for you and for those you’re close to.

That crisis can come to a head during the holidays when people’s expectations of one another are high and when stress levels for everyone are likely to be off the charts for any number of reasons—health, financial, relationship issues. If you’re like me, during the rest of the year, you carefully limit interactions with others in order to manage your symptoms; on a typical day, your most complex decision may be to choose between showering and shopping! But when the holidays arrive, you’re suddenly thrust into the middle of a lively and chaotic social scene where you’re expected to participate in a range of activities, often for days in a row. A bit of advance warning to loved-ones can go a long way toward minimizing stress levels over unrealistic expectations.

I know that this piece won’t apply to everyone. One of the heartbreaking consequences of living with chronic pain and illness is that some people are unable to be with loved-ones at all during the holidays, either because people are too disabled by their pain or illness to be able to gather with others, or because family and close friends having drifted out of their lives. I know the pain of that isolation; I’ll be writing about it in my next piece.

For those of you who are able to gather with others, the holidays can be a recipe for double disaster—the increase in activity exacerbates your physical symptoms, while coping with sadness, frustration, and maybe even guilt about your physical limitations gives rise to emotional pain. No wonder many people with health problems dread the approaching holidays.

If you’re one of the many people with chronic health problems who don’t look sick, the initiative is with you to make your condition visible. Here are some suggestions for helping loved-ones understand what your life is like and for giving them a heads-up on what to expect from you during the holidays.

Share information with them from the Internet or from books

Often the best way to educate loved-ones about chronic pain and illness is to use a neutral source because it takes the emotional impact out of the communication. A quick web search will yield a host of organizations devoted to every conceivable medical problem. Print out select pages or forward a few links to family and close friends. Alternatively, if you have a book about your condition, photocopy the pages that cover what you’d like them to know about you. In your accompanying note, keep it “light”—you could joke that “there won’t be a test.” But also make it clear that this favor you’re asking is important to you.

Write a letter

Many years ago, two friends of mine were in couples therapy. They weren’t able to speak to each other about their marital problems without one of them shutting down emotionally and the other reacting by shouting recriminations. Their therapist told them to write letters to each other expressing their feelings and their concerns about the marriage. It turned out to be a major first step in healing their relationship.

If you decide to write a letter, be sure it’s not accusatory. In composing it, use the word “I” more than the word “you.” Without complaining, express how difficult it’s been for you to adjust to this unexpected change in your life and how you wish you could be as active as you once were during the holidays.

You could briefly describe what your day-to-day life is like, including how unpredictable your condition is which means that you can’t know for sure how you’ll feel on the day of the actual gathering no matter how much you rest in advance. (This is the hardest concept for most loved-ones to comprehend—that we can spend weeks before a big event in full “rest mode,” but still feel very sick when the day arrives.)

I would end by telling them what to expect from you during the holidays—that you may have to skip some events, that you may have to excuse yourself right after eating to go lie down, that you may have to come late and leave early. In my experience, spelling out my limitations ahead of time is helpful not just to others, but to me, because I find it much easier to exercise the self-discipline it takes to excuse myself from a room full of people if I know that at least some of them are already expecting it.

P.S. It will be tempting to send an email, and if you have a lot of people you want to communicate with, it may be the most feasible way to reach everyone. But one thing’s for sure: people will read a handwritten letter, antiquated document that it’s become!

Find that ONE ally and enlist his or her help

If you have just one close friend or family member who understands what you’re going through, enlist his or her help in explaining your condition and your limitations. Before the holidays start, you could ask your ally to talk to loved-ones on your behalf or to be present when you talk to them. Ask your ally to be supportive if you have to excuse yourself in the middle of a gathering, or even to let you know if you’re wilting (as we call it in my household). It’s so helpful for me to be “prompted” by my ally because, when I start to overdo things, adrenaline kicks in which fools me into thinking I’m doing fine. But using adrenaline to get by just sets me up for a bad crash later on.

Your ally may be a close friend or family member who’s just waiting for you to enlist his or her help. Think long and hard before you decide there’s no such person in your life.

In the end, you may have to recognize that some loved-ones may never accept your limitations

Some family and close friends may refuse to accept that you’re disabled by pain or illness. I know this from personal experience and it hurts. Try to recognize that this inability is about them, not you. Don’t let their doubt make you doubt yourself. Your medical condition may trigger their own fears about illness and mortality, or they may be so caught up in problems in their own lives that they’re not able to see their way clear to empathize with you.

Just as you can’t force people to love you, you can’t force people to accept you. But getting angry at them just exacerbates your own symptoms. That’s why it’s important to protect yourself from allowing their lack of understanding to continually upset you. Think of it as protecting yourself from another chronic condition: chronic anger.

The physical suffering that accompanies chronic pain and illness is hard enough to endure without adding emotional suffering to it. When I feel let down family or close friends, the first thing I do is acknowledge how much it hurts. Then I reflect on the many possible reasons for their behavior. Finally, I work on genuinely wishing them well. These three steps immediately lessen my emotional suffering.

As you experiment with these suggestions, treat yourself kindly. Don’t blame yourself if one of them doesn’t work out. Instead, give yourself credit for having had the courage to try! My heartfelt wish is that your loved-ones come to understand and accept your limitations, but that if they don’t, you’ll be able to accept them as they are without bitterness."

According to EmpoHER (

"One of the unique problems that comes with chronic illness is that ... it lasts so long.

Some chronically ill people are fortunate to have a solid support network of family and friends. For others, things are very different.

If there were people interested in helping, while they may have been dedicated and compassionate at first, the long haul proved to be too long. The sprint they could run was too short for the marathon of chronic illness.

Many of us have outlasted our helping companions and carry on down the bleak road alone.

Do you know someone who is alone this holiday season? Maybe you can't commit great blocks of time or resources to their care and comfort.

But if you can spend a little time, and maybe even a little money, and you just need some suggestions, you're headed in the right direction.

You don't have to look for big things to make a difference for many who are chronically ill.

Things that you may take for granted, that seem like no big deal in your own life can be things that have stumped the chronically ill with a wall of impossibility for a long time.

Ever made lunch? Fixing something for your friend will not only brighten their day with your caring actions, it will also take care of a practical problem.

Some people who are chronically ill must spend most of their energy putting a meal together, needing to recuperate for the rest of the day afterward. Others just end up not eating.

Washing laundry, sticking it in the dryer and doing some folding are simple chores. Having a friend come over to go through these paces can bring a sense of order to a home that may be short on that quality.

Clean clothes, especially when they've been hung up and placed in drawers, bespeak affection and closeness for someone who may not feel that very often. Not to mention, you will save them their little energy quota for the day for other things.

When you have to run to the store, perhaps you could call or stop by to see if your friend needs anything as well. One trip, two sets of errands accomplished. Less stress and pressure on your friend, and you go home feeling like you've made a difference.

This time of year, snow can be a going concern in many areas of the country. Chances are your friend can't lift a shovel let alone clean a walk or driveway.

Whether we're talking about a shovel, a snowblower, or a snow plow -- whether you do the job yourself or pay someone else to do it -- removing their snow can also remove the burden of being faced with an insurmountable task.

And if you'd like some hot chocolate afterwards, you could come in and spend time with your friend ... and make hot chocolate for both of you.

The possibilities, really, are endless if you want to help someone who is chronically ill. The holes in their abilities and resources are often vast and widespread.

Do it for the holiday season, or just do it for a friend whose daily existence may be tougher than you can begin to fathom."

Dealing with isolation can be a huge problem for gastroparesis patient and also the chronically ill. Many of us are too sick to go out anywhere or even be around food. In that case, the source below will give you some tips on what to do when you're isolated during the holidays.

According to You Don't Look Sick (

"The title is ominous, I know. But for so many of us that suffer from chronic illnesses, it’s an all too true reality. I must preface this by saying that not all people who suffer with a chronic illness experience this. However, the subtleties of it grow as time passes and one is confronted with the reality of it, be it large or small, at some point in their lives.

It may be as small as the awareness of the decrease of invitations by friends due to our physical limitations. For some, that awareness grows to a more glaring, in your face, epiphany that friends that were always there before suddenly wish no part in your life…excuses a plenty. It’s not even relegated to just friends. Family roles play a big part of isolation experiences for the chronically ill. Those closest to us are often the ones to fall into one of two categories. Faithfully standing by no matter what or those that turn a blind-eye and deaf-ear to our honest answer to their question, “How are you?”

It’s important for the chronically ill to have a plan to handle times of feeling isolated. This is true whether you’re feeling isolated now or think it’s a possibility for your future. The realities of life are handled better if we understand the possibilities and have a plan on ways in which to deal with such times. Let’s talk about some ways to handle isolation times in your life.

We’re blessed to live in a time of the information super highway. Social network sites make it much easier to remain in our homes, if needed, yet still be interactive on a day to day basis. Whether it be local friends and family or online acquaintances, it’s there for our using and can keep us connected to the real world. Some suggestions might be the on facebook or the message boards

Not only do we have a multitude of e-social activities to participate in, we have a vast array of research at our fingertips. We can be pro-active in our medical care simply by spending time doing a bit of our own educating.

Can we say real life support groups? If ever there was a source of interaction for the chronically ill and isolated, it’s support groups. Some of the most wonderful people you’d ever want to meet are in a support group and can truly say, “Been there, done that!” Or, they say nothing at all but have golden ears to listen with.

Blogging is one of my favorites. It’s like your online diary. I like to be able to express myself, and even my feelings of isolation, in words. Many blog sites can be set to private so that no one, other than those you want, can read them. Many of the aforementioned support group sites offer their own blog space just for you. You never know when someone will read your blog and be totally blown away by the knowledge that someone else is going through exactly what you are.

So, you see, isolation doesn’t have to take over. Yes, there are times where quiet reflection is needed but no longer do we have to draw back into a dark place in our minds where loneliness rules. Like the old yellow pages ad said, “Let your fingers do the walking!” Get out there via the internet and keep in touch with friends and family. Find new friends that can relate to what you’re going through and can offer hope, encouragement and support that you may not have otherwise. It’s a good choice to make and certainly a good way to handle isolation for the chronically ill."

I really hope this article will help you deal with the holiday stresses. I know all holidays are centered around food, and it's hard to ignore. But, remember, even though the holidays are tough, YOU ARE TOUGHER!

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

How to Feel Sexy/Have Sex with Gastroparesis or a Chronic Illness

I know that if you have a chronic illness, like gastroparesis, it can be difficult on you and your partner's sex life. I actually had to stop in the middle of sex to vomit into a bucket. That kills the mood. If you have a feeding tube, it might be worse. Where do you put your tube? How do you feel sexy when you feel ill all of the time? What can you do about it? I've researched some great sources that may help you with your sex life, even if you have a chronic illness. If you have any tips, please send them my way and I'll edit this blog entry and credit you with the information. You can email me at: emilysstomach[at]

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According to But You Don't Look Sick:

1. Communicate- Be open and honest with your sexual partner. Share with him or her your concerns and fears. Listen openly to their concerns as well, and see if the both of you can come up with a resolution that can satisfy equally.

2. Plan ahead- Chronic illness makes spontaneity very difficult and can create a looming fear of not being able to perform on the spot. My husband and I have “date nights.” This is just another way we circumvent “bad timing.” You can prepare by taking warm baths with Epsom Salt or take a few over-the-counter pain pills to reduce stiffness and aches. Perhaps throw a light massage in the mix! See if your partner can pitch in more that day with the housework or with the kids. Planning ahead may not make up for spontaneity, but it does add to anticipation!

3. Learn to accept your body- Accepting how your body looks and feels is not only essential to maintaining a healthy identity, it will also reduce the anxiety of having an intimate encounter. You may have a few more lumps and bumps, and extra weight which may not be acceptable for you, but you must realize that not accepting yourself is communicated in your intimate relationships. If you are uncomfortable with you, it makes it equally hard for your partner to be comfortable. Realize that you are doing the best you can with what you have, so give yourself a break!

4. Know the side effects of your medications- The side effects to many medications, can reek havoc on the body, and it would be wise on your part to read your prescription bottles carefully. Some of the side effects listed on your prescriptions may not relate directly to sexual performance, but pay attention to side effects that read: dizziness, drowsiness, nausea, mood swings and dryness, since these symptoms will effect you even during your intimate times, so it’s best to prepare. You may need to use lubricants, change sexual positions, or consult your physician (in the case of impotency or soreness). It’s always best to be educated! For people like us, who live with a chronic illness, we may need to activate a bit more patience and a whole lot of creativity when it comes to our “bedroom business”, but if there is a will, there is a way! You deserve intimacy and a healthy sex life like everyone else, and so does your partner. - See more at:

Family Doctor almost says the same things:

How can a chronic illness affect my sex life?

A chronic illness is a health problem that you have over a long period of time, such as heart disease, diabetes, arthritis or cancer.

People who have a chronic illness can feel tired and depressed a lot of the time. They may have pain, stiffness or trouble sleeping. They may need medicines or other treatments that can affect their sex life. They may have a surgery that changes how their body looks. As a result, they may feel less interested in sex, or they may not enjoy sex like they used to.

Suggestions for keeping your sex life healthy if you have a chronic illness

Read about your illness. There are many self-help books that discuss sex and specific chronic illnesses. You can also join a support group to talk about your illness.

If you have a chronic health problem, the following might help you get ready for sexual activity:

Plan sexual activity for the time of day when you have the most energy and your health problem bothers you the least.
Be sure that you are rested and relaxed.
Wait at least 2 hours after you eat to have sex.
If you need pain medicine to feel better, take the medicine 30 minutes before sexual activity.
Limit the amount of alcohol you drink, and avoid using tobacco in any form. Alcohol and tobacco can affect sexual function.

The following might help you maintain your sex life:

Hold hands, hug and touch your partner, even when you do not plan to have sex.
Use your senses to make sexual activity more enjoyable. For example, have satin sheets on the bed, light some scented candles or play music.
Tell your partner what you like and do not like. Listen to your partner's likes and dislikes.
Try different sexual positions to find positions that are comfortable for you and your partner, or use pillows for comfort.
Try personal lubricants (one brand name: K-Y Jelly) to help reduce discomfort with sexual intercourse.

Talking to your partner:

Even with the best of intentions and preparation, there may be times during your illness when you decide that you do not want to be sexually active. Talk to your partner about how you feel and why you feel that way. Talk about how you can help your partner deal with his or her feelings and interest in sexual activity.

Talking to your doctor:

Talk to your doctor about any concerns you have about your sex life. Your doctor may have some suggestions that can help.

Be sure to let your doctor know if you are feeling depressed or if you think that side effects from a medicine are affecting your sex life.

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According to SERC:

Suggestions for People with Chronic Illness

Illness, whether short term or chronic, will most likely affect sexuality in some way. There may be changes in how you feel about body image, sexual self‐esteem, and intimate relationships. How these are impacted is, in part, about your unique story. Your health care providers may not address these issues and it can be embarrassing to bring them up yourself. It can be difficult to bring this up with a partner, as well.

The following suggestions can help you deal openly with the problems that may come up as a result of chronic illness. They can also help you explore a variety of ways to continue enjoying yourself as a sexual person.

Remember that you are still a sexual person but might need to explore new ways to enjoy your sexuality.

Do not be discouraged! It will take time to unlearn old ways of thinking and acting.

Think about these questions: are you focused on performance rather than pleasure? Are you goal‐oriented rather than pleasure‐oriented? If so, it’s time for a change!

Remember that many people have sexual problems because of incorrect information and assumptions about the effect of their illness. Get the facts. Then figure out what actions you can take.

Talk with your physician about common sexual issues for people with your condition. If your primary clinician is unable to help, look further. A session or two with a sexuality counselor may be exactly what you need.

Realize that medications for chronic illness may affect sexual desire and response. Ask your physician about substituting or reducing a medication.

Talk with your partner about your feelings, your fears, and your desires. What used to seem like a natural, sexual progression may now need careful planning.

Plan for sexual activity when you and your partner are rested and not distracted.

Remember there are many pleasurable and satisfying sexual activities that do not involve intercourse.

If possible, join a support group and talk with others who have the same physical problems. Ask them what adjustments have helped them.

If you have vaginal dryness, try a lubricant. This problem – causing pain and distress for many women – is often relieved by lubricants from the local pharmacy.

Be adventurous: read books, browse the web, experiment with new sexual positions and sexual aids such as vibrators.

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As for sex with feeding tubes, I need to do a bit more research on that. I'll have to get back to you. But, these are just general points to help you with your sex life if you are chronically ill. If you have a feeding tube and could help me out with writing about it, I would greatly appreciate it.

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Going on a Cruise with GP

Well, for the past week, my husband surprised me with a cruise to the Carribean and Bahamas for our ten year wedding anniversary. I have to admit, I was a bit apprehensive. I had been really ill with a gastroparesis attack or flare for a while now. However, I wanted to get away. I needed to rest and the ocean sounded wonderful. Swimming and a hot tub sounded wonderful. I really wanted to make the best of it and crossed my fingers that I would have some good days. I didn't want to disappoint my husband or make him feel bad. It was really sweet of him to take me on a cruise that I've never done before, plus go to islands I wouldn't have thought to visit. So, I packed and was feeling excited. I had hope and that's important.

I was scared that I would be sick on the cruise in an RV sized bathroom:

The corner of the room in the far right was the restroom.

I have to admit, though, the cruise was relaxing. I think the ocean helped a lot, believe it or not. One of the few things that doesn't make me sick is the ocean. I don't get sea sick. However, the cafe we ate (or me, barely ate at) was buffet style with a lot of people. It made me sad to look at all of the things I couldn't have. Also, people seemed to bathe in perfume or cologne. It made me gag a few times in the elevator going up to the cafe. When I got there, all I could think was:

I did make the mistake of trying to eat and be normal. I went horseback riding in the ocean, which was amazing. Then, I noticed my belly swelling up like I was nine months pregnant. I felt so self conscious and unbelievably fat. I'm heavy already but not usually that heavy, which is weird to me because I almost never eat. The people at the horse farm weighed me in front of everyone because they said the horses couldn't take someone over two hundred and thirty pounds! I've never weighed anything like that, ever. I just felt sad and depressed but riding in the ocean with the horse made it better.

I was a poster child for this picture.

When I do eat, I get cramps (really bad ones), and then I start vomiting. The last two days of the trip, I spent in and out of the bathroom and was so amazingly ill. I started crying at one point because I felt like I couldn't go on. My throat and belly hurt so much, even my knees hurt from bending over to get sick.

I got to celebrate my tenth anniversary without a flare. Thankfully, it waited until the next day. I had so much fun on my cruise. I got to sit on the balcony of my room, listen to the ocean and read. If you're thinking of going on a cruise, I'd recommend it. I have a blog article about traveling with GP that may help you if you think you wouldn't be able to travel:

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I was scared but everything turned out all right. I say if you want to travel, you should go for it. Don't let your GP stop you. I didn't.

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Don't Fart During an MRI

By: Elaine Ambrose
Author, syndicated blogger, featured humor speaker, publisher, and retreat organizer knows that laughter - with wine - is the best medicine.

Posted: 10/27/2014 4:33 pm EDT Updated: 10/27/2014 4:59 pm EDT

I share this true but pathetic story to commiserate with other tortured souls who relentlessly endure and survive extreme humiliation. We're a group of accident-prone fools who regularly trigger embarrassing situations that would permanently traumatize a normal person. My experience this week will be difficult to surpass: I farted inside an MRI machine.

In medical terms, I had torn the meniscus cartilage that acts as a shock absorber between my shinbone and thighbone. In middle-age woman terms, two demons from hell invaded my body and lit fires in my knee and then danced around poking the raw nerves with electric forks. The pain was beyond intense, and the accident severely damaged my body so I couldn't stand, walk, or even crawl to the wine bar.

Five drug-induced days later, I finally saw an orthopedic surgeon. He manipulated my knee until tears streamed down my cheeks and I threatened to tear off his arms. It should have been obvious that I was injured by the way I was ripping off chunks from the sides of the examination table. I silently vowed to add him as a nasty character in my next short story. Finally, some lovely angel gave me legal narcotics. Soon my ravaged leg was a big, bandaged joke, and I laughed and laughed.

A few days later I experienced the MRI - a magnetic resonance imaging procedure that uses a magnetic field and pulses of radio waves to make images of damaged ligaments and joints. A handsome young technician helped me into the tube of terror and strapped down my leg. I nervously remarked that a first name usually was required before I allowed anyone to tie me in a bed. He didn't laugh but ordered me to hold still for 45 minutes. So there I was, in pain, suffering from claustrophobia, moving on a conveyor belt into the white torture chamber, and I didn't have a clue how to remain motionless. And, to complete the distress, my only audience wasn't amused by my jokes.

After about 20 minutes, I started to get anxious. I was tied down in a tunnel and could only hear strange beeping noises and grinding sounds. For all I knew, they were deciding which body parts to extract and sell on the black market. Then a queasy feeling predicted a pending passing of gas. I bit my tongue, pinched my side, and tried to focus on a pastoral scene in a green meadow beside a babbling brook. I could hear my mother's advice: "Squeeze the dime." I fidgeted.

"Please hold still," came a voice from outside the shaft of shame.

I watched as the lights and numbers revealed how much time remained. Three minutes. I could do it! No! My body betrayed me at the one-minute mark. I was trapped and helpless so my nervous body did what it does best: it farted. I released gas with the intensity and conviction of a team of sumo wrestlers after a chili-eating contest. And the confined space caused the sound to be amplified as if a dozen foghorns had simultaneously activated. I didn't know whether to cry, giggle, or call my son and brag.

"Well now, I think we have enough images," the handsome technician said, suppressing a laugh.

The magic bed moved backwards into freedom, bringing along the putrid stench of decay. I was mortified as my imaginary meadow became a ravaged pasture full of rotting manure. What in the hell had I eaten? I avoided eye contact with the timid technician and hobbled back to the dressing room. Once again, I accepted my fate of being the perpetual, reluctant clown, the oddball, the one who farts during a complicated medical procedure.

If I ever need another MRI, I'll request a facility in Texas. Everyone farts there.

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Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Pregnancy and Gastroparesis

I am featuring a series of guest bloggers to blog about things that I don't have personal experience with, who can better answer your questions. A lot of questions that I've received recently have to do with GP and Pregnancy. I don't have any experience with this but thankfully, I had two women offer to share their different stories with you and try to alleviate any questions that you have about pregnancy regarding GP.

These two, brave ladies are willing to share their experiences with you. If you have any further questions, please leave it in the comments so that they can answer them for you. I am grateful for all of my guest bloggers, for tackling the issues that I feel are important. I'm very grateful for their stories and I hope that you have a good read!

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My Pregnacy with GP
by: Julienne Floetke

I have had Gastroparesis for 6 years now. I was able to get pregnant very easily (which is such a blessing, I know it's not easy for everyone). I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy last year and am 25 weeks pregnant right now. I was incredibly scared to get pregnant because of the GP. With my first pregnancy, I stopped taking the medicine I was on (Nortriptyline) due to the risks. It was extremely difficult coming off the medicine, but I didn't really have a choice. I chose not to go back on the medicine so that when I got pregnant again, I wouldn't have to worry about it. (I had surgery and had to wait 8 months to try again).

The first 17 weeks of this pregnancy were extremely challenging. I have never felt so sick in my life. I did not understand how there were so many people in this world and why people would continue to have babies if it was like that for everyone. It has definitely improved and my thoughts have also changed.

Seeing my little baby and feeling her move around is so worth the pain and struggles that go along with being pregnant and having GP. I've heard of many people getting better while they are pregnant though, so my story isn't the only way it could go!

Every pregnancy is different. I am still taking Zofran every night to prevent vomiting from morning sickness. I was scared about getting pregnant, but my want of being a mom overruled those feelings. Every day is different with pregnancy, just as it sometimes is with GP.

I've never thought about giving GP to her because no one else in my family has it. I never really thought of it as genetic, which it could be, I don't know. If she does get it though, I've learned so much through my journey I would hope to be able to help her. I pray that she is perfect and healthy though, of course.
I have mentioned on the forum before that I struggle really bad with vitamins. I've always gotten sick with vitamins so trying the prenatal, the prenatals without iron, the gummy prenatals, and Flintstones have taken a toll on my stomach.

I feel EXTREMELY guilty that I haven't taken vitamins (even a little consistently) since I was 8 weeks pregnant. I was trying to eat better to get more nutrients, but that went down the drain when I had a flare and then got kidney stones.

I have researched online about people not taking vitamins and everything pretty much seems negative. I hate not being strong enough to take them every day or even once a week. I feel like I'm failing and that is not a good feeling. I feel like I would do a better job of taking care of her outside of my body at this point. I'm praying she comes out healthy and well nourished. That's all I can do sometimes.

Kidney stones with bowel issues aren't very fun either, but because I deal with pain every day with my stomach, I just use my tactics to get through it. I try not to take Tylenol because I feel like that is something I do have control of and I just work through it. I get very down about having Gastroparesis and feel like it's extremely unfair to have to work so hard at things people can do without a problem. But I cry and get it out and focus on the things I can control.

Being chronically ill makes everything a challenge, and pregnancy is no different. However, those of us with GP are a rare breed. We are strong. Our bodies were made to have babies and I have trust in my body that it will do what it needs to in order to get her earth side healthy and whole. Thanks for listening!

My Pregnancy Story
By: Melinda Horne

I had two kids with GP (gastroparesis) but I did not know that I had GP at the time. During my first pregnancy, the most difficult part was getting pregnant. We tried for nine years before finally succeeding, and we had two early miscarriages before that and both were before eight weeks along.

We spent years having test and seeing fertility doctors with no real explanation as to why we could not get pregnant. I did know that I had PCOS (Poly-cystic Ovarian Syndrome) but found that I was ovulating every month with no luck.

The month we found out we were pregnant, the doctor was just as confused as us, as the test showed we did not ovulate that month. Clearly, it was wrong.

My pregnancy was pretty normal aside from the fact that I vomited twenty-four seven, and at two months pregnant, I left work because I couldn't work newspaper hours on no sleep/no energy. I couldn't even answer the phone at work as I was always in the bathroom.

One day I fell asleep at work at my desk and after that day I did not go back. I knew when the baby came that I would have to stop working at the newspaper, as both parents can't work 12 hour days anyway. I did better at home with the vomiting because I could lay down when nausea hit hard.

The last month was bad so the doctor put me on Phenergan and it worked but it also made me sleep for long periods of time, like twelve to eighteen hours. I only woke up to drink protein/meal shakes. I was obese and gained only eight pounds with her during the pregnancy.

I delivered vaginally in only eight hours (lucky for me since the epidural didn't work even after being stuck 5 times we never found the right spot), record time for a first pregnancy. She was an ounce shy of being 7 lbs and completely healthy.

About two years later we decided to try again and it only took us six months to get pregnant. I was still sick this time but learned from the first pregnancy not to eat certain heavy foods that did not stay down, and to supplement this with a lot of meal replacement shakes and soft foods.

I didn't have any complications until 29 weeks when we discovered that I had a slow amnio leak and was forced to drink 72 ounces of water a day. I lived in the bathroom. At about 32 weeks, my water level was low. So from that point on, we went to hospital twice a week to check fluid levels, and to have a bpp (bio-pyschical profile) and non stress test. My doctor kept a close eye on us. We got a lot of looks at the baby and everyone said that the baby would be a girl.

At 34 weeks, while having a bpp (bio-pyschical profile), while we looked at baby's breathing and took measurements, the tech and I discovered that it's actually a boy!

A week later at my bpp and stress test didn't score well. They did a more in depth ultrasound and the baby was not growing much. My fluid level was low, 10 is a good fluid level and 5 is danger zone, mine was 1.2. The doctor said they would have to treat me like my water broke and deliver me.

My body wasn't really ready and induction is long and painful. I delivered him the next day vaginally, without any major problems. He was born and weighed 5 lbs 7 ounces, and was small but healthy. We found out his lungs and everything was developed. He stayed with me and then went home with me after a few days.

I would highly recommend a good doctor that deals with high risk patients and babies. I am convinced that the doctor is why my son did so well. Being diagnosed with GP, I would want a doctor that at least was willing to listen to concerns and make sure you get the medical care you need while pregnant with GP, even if that means dealing with your GI doctor to manage you.

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Suicide and Chronic Illness

I am involved with a lot of gastroparesis groups on Facebook. A few weeks ago, we lost one of our members to suicide. I wanted to address this, so that her death had some meaning, and to reach out to anyone else who is feeling lost and lonely. Please know that you aren't alone. Many people with chronic illnesses have a higher chance of suicide, according to medical studies.

According to The Guardian (,

"At least one person takes their life every day while suffering from a chronic or terminal illness, and the government is neglecting this hidden trend, the think tank Demos has said.

In a study, The Truth About Suicide, researchers found at least 10% of suicides in Britain are linked to terminal or chronic illness, accounting for more than 400 deaths a year. The think tank, which said the study marked the first attempt to estimate the scale of suicides related to illness, wanted to challenge the notion that taking one's own life is largely about a patient's mental health rather than physical state. Researchers also found some people were killing themselves at a "younger age in order to avoid severe symptoms and greater pain later in life".

The figures come from a mixture of sources, including data from freedom of information requests to 147 primary care trusts, which are supposed to conduct annual suicide audits.

Researchers also conducted a series of interviews with serving and recently retired coroners. Demos also had access to suicide inquest files in Norwich from May 2006 to December 2010 to identify the proportion of suicides that involved people with terminal or chronic health conditions. It said that of the 4,390 individual suicide cases last year, 10% concerned people "experiencing some form of serious physical illness as an influencing factor".

The researchers said patients with such conditions "should be considered a high- risk group for suicide within national policy, and much greater attention should be given to providing better medical, practical and psychological support". The issue has become a fixture in public debate as growing numbers of UK citizens with chronic or terminal conditions have traveled to the assisted-death organization Dignitas in Switzerland to be helped to end their lives. Last year, a coroner recorded a verdict of suicide over the death of Michelle Broad, wife of the former England cricketer and international referee Chris Broad, who had motor neurone disease.

Louise Bazalgette, author of the report, said the "lack of attention paid to people with terminal or chronic illness committing suicide is a gross dereliction of duty on the part of the government and health services. The difficulty we experienced in tracking down evidence of the relationship between physical illness and suicide suggests a willful avoidance of what is an extremely important public health issue.

"The results are devastating: at least 400 people with terminal or chronic illness commit suicide every year and this cannot continue to be ignored."

She said a government consultation on suicide prevention, issued last month, focused on the same "at risk" groups identified by Labor in 2002: those using mental health services, prisoners and people with a history of self-harm.

"Eighty prisoners committed suicide last year. That is only a fifth of suicides of patients with chronic or terminal conditions. There's an urgent need for support," she said.

Experts agreed hospital doctors and GPs could do more to identify patients at risk from suicide but warned that the issue was "more complicated".

Linda Gask, professor of primary care psychiatry at the University of Manchester, said it was wrong to think "being depressed enough to commit suicide is either because of your mental health or your physical health: one is linked to another. We know that 30% of diabetes patients are depressed. Not all of them commit suicide.

"On the other hand, those traveling to Dignitas would say they are not depressed. They argue they are making a rational decision because they do not want to live like this."

Charities were also wary of clearly ascribing the cause of a suicide to either physical or mental health problems.

Jo Ferns, director of research for the Samaritans, said the issue was one of "risk" and what factors increased the chance of suicide.

"People with chronic conditions could be not suicidal but perhaps apathetic about living or dying. They are not saying they will kill themselves but taking decisions that do increase the risks. I think that's what we have to watch for."

A Department of Health spokesman said its mental health strategy recognized "that physical illness increases the risk of mental health problems and vice versa. We are consulting with bereaved families and experts in general practice, local government, and other organizations on a new strategy to prevent suicides.

"The consultation calls upon healthcare professionals to be alert to mental health issues, especially depression, in the patients that they see for known physical health problems, and to take the right steps to help people with long-term conditions have a better quality of life.""

According to WebMD (

"Dealing With Chronic Illnesses and Depression:

For millions of people, chronic illnesses and depression are facts of life. A chronic illness is a condition that lasts for a very long time and usually cannot be cured completely, although some illnesses can be controlled or managed through lifestyle (diet and exercise) and certain medications. Examples of chronic illnesses include diabetes, heart disease, arthritis, kidney disease, HIV/AIDS, lupus, and multiple sclerosis (I'm going to go ahead and say GP since I believe it's a chronic illness and just as debilitating, even though it's not in the article).

Many people with these illnesses become depressed. In fact, depression is one of the most common complications of chronic illness. It's estimated that up to one-third of people with a serious medical condition have symptoms of depression.

It's not hard to see the cause and effect relationship between chronic illness and depression. Serious illness can cause tremendous life changes and limit your mobility and independence. A chronic illness can make it impossible to do the things you enjoy, and it can eat away at your self-confidence and a sense of hope in the future. No surprise, then, that people with chronic illness often feel despair and sadness. In some cases, the physical effects of the condition itself or the side effects of medication lead to depression, too.

What Chronic Conditions Trigger Depression?

Although any illness can trigger depressed feelings, the risk of chronic illness and depression gets higher with the severity of the illness and the level of life disruption it causes. The risk of depression is generally 10-25% for women and 5-12% for men. However, people with a chronic illness face a much higher risk -- between 25-33%. Risk is especially high in someone who has a history of depression.
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Depression caused by chronic disease often makes the condition worse, especially if the illness causes pain and fatigue or it limits a person's ability to interact with others. Depression can intensify pain, as well as fatigue and sluggishness. The combination of chronic illness and depression might lead you to isolate yourself, which is likely to make the depression even worse.

Research on chronic illnesses and depression indicates that depression rates are high among patients with chronic conditions:

Heart attack: 40%-65% experience depression
Coronary artery disease (without heart attack): 18%-20% experience depression
Parkinson's disease: 40% experience depression
Multiple sclerosis: 40% experience depression
Stroke: 10%-27% experience depression
Cancer: 25% experience depression
Diabetes: 25% experience depression
Chronic pain syndrome: 30%-54% experience depression

Symptoms of Depression

People with a chronic illness as well as their family members often overlook the symptoms of depression. They assume that feeling sad is normal for someone struggling with disease. Symptoms of depression are also often masked by other medical problems. The symptoms get treated, but not the underlying depression. When you have both a chronic illness and depression, you need to treat both at the same time.

Treatment Options

Depression is treated much the same way for someone who is chronically ill as someone who isn't. Early diagnosis and treatment can ease distress along with the risk of complications and suicide. Many times, depression treatment can improve your overall medical condition, a better quality of life, and a greater likelihood of sticking to a long-term treatment plan.

When depressive symptoms are related to the physical illness or the side effects of medication, your doctor may need to adjust or change your treatment. When the depression is a separate problem, it can be treated on its own. More than 80% of people with depression can be treated successfully with medicine, psychotherapy, or a combination of both. Antidepressant drugs usually take effect within a matter of weeks. You should work closely with your doctor or psychiatrist to find the most effective medication.

Tips for Living With a Chronic Illness

Depression, disability, and chronic illness form a vicious cycle. Chronic medical conditions can bring on bouts of depression, which, in turn get in the way of successful treatment of the disease.

Living with a chronic illness is a challenge, and it's normal to feel grief and sadness as you come to grips with your condition and its implications. But if these feelings don't go away, or you are having trouble sleeping or eating, or you've lost interest in the activities you normally enjoy, seek help.

To avoid depression:

Try not to isolate yourself. Reach out to family and friends. If you don't have a solid support system, take steps to build one. Ask your doctor or therapist about support groups and other community resources.

Learn as much as you can about your condition. Knowledge is power when it comes to getting the best treatment available and keeping your sense of independence and control.

Make sure that you have medical support from experts you trust and can talk to openly about your ongoing questions and concerns.

If you suspect that your medication is bringing you down, talk to your doctor about other possible treatments.

Talk with your doctor about pain management.

As much as is possible, keep doing the things you like to do. You'll stay connected as well as boost your self-confidence and sense of community.

If you think you're depressed, don't wait to get help. Find a therapist or counselor you trust."

If you ARE feeling suicidal, please reach out to someone for help - a friend, a family member, priest, counselor, or click on the links below for help. We don't want to lose you, you're too valuable and your life is not meaningless.

Suicide Prevention:

If you are feeling suicidal and you want help then I have some websites for you to look into:

The Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Here is a link to determine whether someone is really suicidal or not: